A letter to dads, Mother’s Day is your day to shine! I am writing this to me as much as I am writing it to all you other dads out there. Mother’s Day is very important to, well Mothers. This is the one day out of the year she is acknowledged for the amazing things she does day in and day out. If we fail in this one simple task to remember her on this day, we don’t deserve a Father’s Day. I will give you valuable advice later on in this post on how to do something amazing for Mother’s Day.
I am horrible at remembering Mother’s Day, birthdays, anniversaries and so on. I can give you all kinds of excuses as to why, but the fact is there is no excuse. I let the everyday worries of this world come between me and remembering to plan something special.
Mother’s Day for our family is a little more precious to us because you see, my wife and I have struggled with infertility. I would watch my wife every year struggle to get out of bed those Sunday mornings dreading the day. Until that wonderful day when we adopted our daughter and son.
You see, we decided to be foster parents with the hope of one day adopting. That day came and you should see my wife now. She loves being a mother. That is all she has ever wanted to be. We joke about the way we met. She was in college for her MRS degree. Now Mother’s Day is my day to shine! I do this by helping our kids make a special card and plan something for her that day. I don’t want to say what that is because she may read this before Sunday. Sorry Dear, ha ha!
Dads, Mother’s Day is your day to shine! Step up and be the leader and husband you know you want to be. Too long have the fathers been absent from the home. Too long have mothers had to manage and raise our children. We need you to take charge of the home again and show your daughter the man she needs in her life. Your son needs to see how you treat a lady.
“In bed at 10:30 I still hoped there was something coming (such a stupid idiot I am) and when he rolled over to go to sleep I realized that there really was nothing…not from him..not something he and Daughter went to buy for me…NOTHING. I flipped out. I don’t mean screaming and throwing things but I cried harder than I have ever cried in my entire adult life. I almost hyperventilated. He was defensive at first but finally just let me lay it all out and all I kept hearing was “sorry” from him. I believe he meant it. But he also just kept saying that he has no idea why he does this…why he can’t seem to do for me what he knows would give me happiness. He said he loves me but he just “forgets”. He said it’s not intentional and hopes that I can forgive him yet again.”This is an excerpt from the comments.“Let me make clear, to start with, what my position is on Mother’s Day. I don’t expect anything from my husband on Mother’s Day because I am not his mother. However, when our kids were growing up, I expected him to motivate our children regarding Mother’s Day, since it would not be appropriate for me to do so. (Same for birthdays or other gift-giving holidays.) This was part of his responsibility as a father. It was very nice of him to remember to wish me a happy Mother’s Day this year, and to get take-out for dinner so I wouldn’t have to cook (and I thanked him very much for his thoughtfulness), but there have been other years since our children became old enough to be responsible for their own Mother’s Day greetings, where he has forgotten about Mother’s Day, and I haven’t minded (or upbraided him for any thoughtlessness).”
Servant Leadership: Husbands Love Your WivesPaul states in Ephesians 5:23 that “the husband is the head of the wife.” He also tells husbands: “love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her . . . husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself” (Ephesians 5:25,28, NIV).In God’s hierarchy, leaders serve. Jesus says, “The greatest among you will be your servant” (Matthew 23:11, NIV). Christ demonstrated servant leadership Himself when He willingly died on the cross for our sins.Leadership, or headship, is not a right to command and control as one might in a military setting. Author and pastor of Bethlehem Bible Church in Minneapolis, Minn., John Piper defines headship as “the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christ-like servant leadership, protection and provision in the home.”“If I’ve seen anything over the years, it’s not leading perfectly that counts,” says McChrystal. “It’s having an attitude where I’m trying and my wife sees that I’m trying. That is the most important thing she needs. This knocks the props out from anybody who says ‘I can’t.’ You can. Anybody can try.”
Here, a group of moms share what the most meaningful gifts are to them:
- A day off from housework, dish washing and cooking – even if it means eggs and toast for dinner!
- A thorough cleaning of Mom’s car, both inside and out.
- Breakfast in bed.
- A good book . . . and time to read it!
- A long, quiet, uninterrupted nap.
- A homemade card or picture telling Mom how much she’s appreciated.
- A hand-picked bouquet of dandelions or tree blossoms placed on her bedside table.
- A day with the kids, window-shopping, having lunch and just being together.
- Seeing her kids or husband take on a household chore they wouldn’t normally do.
- A quiet night alone to relax and put her feet up.
- A massage, manicure or pedicure.
- Being told that she’s the best mom in the world!